As a kid, I was convinced that I wanted to be a quirky primary school teacher, just like my dad. Then, as I grew older, I wanted to be a theatrical designer, and finally an “edgy” librarian.

In truth, I ended up as none of those things and wound up doing something I never planned or expected: creating this website, lonerwolf, and guiding people through the awakening journey. 

But here’s a secret. Now that I’m in my mid-ish thirties, I still don’t always know what to do with my life.

“But you run this website!” you might protest. Well, yes. I do.

However, the reality is that I frequently feel lost, unsure of where to guide this work next, and at times empty and uninspired.

In fact, I have literally gone years sometimes just throwing stuff out there and hoping it sticks or makes some kind of legible sense.

At the end of the day, I believe uncertainty is part of what it means to be human. 

Can you relate?

If you struggle with the sense that you don’t know what to do with your life, you’re not the only one.

This feeling can stir up some pretty disturbing feelings of existential dread, anxiety, confusion, and fear that maybe “you’re wasting your life” or whittling away your time meaninglessly. 

Having no idea what to do with our life can make us feel like failures and imposters pretending to have it all together externally while feeling internally messy.

But here’s the thing: I believe having no idea what to do with your life is actually a good thing when embraced with open arms.

Strangely, accepting your feelings of “I don’t know what to do with my life” actually leads to the solution itself and the path that is uniquely yours.

Why Having No Idea What to Do With Your Life is Actually a Good Thing

People, chained to monotony, afraid to think, clinging to certainties … they live like ants. – Bela Lugosi

I’m going to make a wild statement here: 

Certainty is the death of creativity, curiosity, and innovation. 

We’re taught that we “should” know what to do with our lives. But why? Why should we know what to “do” with our lives?

Shouldn’t life be an adventure, rather than a steady monotonous march to our graves?

If you have no idea what to do with your life, count yourself lucky. You aren’t deadened by a belief, an ideal, or a dogma. You are fresh, free, and available to new possibilities.

Having “it all figured out” not only makes you rigid and crusty like stale bread, but it’s also positively stupid.  

As philosopher Bertrand Russell once wrote,

One of the painful things about our time is that those who feel certainty are stupid, and those with any imagination and understanding are filled with doubt and indecision.

Moving on, let me summarise this all in a few bite-sized reflections:

• Knowing something with certainty typically makes you rigid, closed off to new ideas, and therefore uncreative. 
• Feeling lost and adrift in life helps you to become open and receptive to fresh information, increasing your creativity.
• Not knowing what to do with your life breaks you out of old patterns and keeps you humble.

In the words of psychoanalyst Erich Fromm, “Creativity requires the courage to let go of certainties.”

We are living in the age of the creator, and not knowing what to do with your life is a prerequisite for sharing something meaningful with the world – take it from someone who has been doing this for 12+ years.

The Mind Tries to Figure Out “What to Do” With Life, The Soul Trusts and Opens

It’s normal to think to yourself, “I don’t know what to do with my life,” and to despair that there’s no clear path or answer. 

It’s maddening, isn’t it, trying to figure it all out?

This is the mind at work, frantically scrambling to make things follow a logical structure, make sense, and control the uncontrollable current of life.

You may find that just when you’ve caught on to “The Answer,” something else unexpected crashes into your life and throws you back to square one again.

Don’t worry about any of this mental struggle. It’s normal. Just recognize that, in the words of philosopher Søren Kierkegaard, life is not a problem to be solved, but a reality to be experienced.

Your mind will never come to a satisfactory conclusion because the nature of the mind is to constantly have a problem to fix, a bone to chase, an unreachable horizon to pursue.

Instead, recognize that the state of ‘not-knowing’ allows you to tune into your heart’s wisdom rather than your mind’s projections.

Not-knowing – that is, stepping outside of thought and into the space of surrender to the Divine’s flow – is the path of creative success and life purpose.

Not-knowing allows you to taste the succulent sweetness of divine inspiration, which is what you’re really looking for deep down. You want to meaningfully give back to the world and make some kind of difference, right?

Divine inspiration is that which gives your life a direction based on energetic flow, not on mental “know” – that is, the mind’s tendency to try and “know-it-all” rather than trust in a greater intelligence.

A Simple Solution: Ask This One Powerful Question

As we’ve covered so far, when you feel lost and adrift in life, a powerful space within you opens to:

1. Become receptive to new ideas

2. Access more creative fluidity

3. Change old ingrained patterns

4. Tune into your heart’s wisdom, not your mind’s projections

But how do you tune into your heart’s wisdom, your soul’s deeper truth?

I love this question posed by author Joseph Nguyen in Don’t Believe Everything You Think,

A question that greatly helps me to settle the thinking and tap into the limitless well of possibilities of what I could create is: “If I had infinite money, already traveled the world, had no fear, and didn’t receive any recognition for what I do, what would I do or what would I create?” Whenever we ask questions, answers always arise. It is impossible for our brains to hear a question and not come up with a response. So when you ask yourself this question, whatever begins to come up for you without any manual thinking will be from the divine and from inspiration versus desperation.

Take some time out to genuinely contemplate this question. Do this right now. 

If your mind feels busy, return to this question later. But don’t avoid it. I find that it helps to visualize the question, then let the mind quiet and wait.

What came up for you? I’d love to hear.

Remember that trusting and opening to a state of not-knowing and embracing that you have no idea where your life is going is much healthier and saner than trying to “figure it all out,” have a “ten-step plan,” or be perfectly aligned with your goals one hundred percent of the time. 

Trust in the flow and see where it takes you. Enjoy the ride and have fun. Having no idea what to do with your life is a good thing: it keeps you humble, open, and creative.

That’s it for this week.

Until next time, keep embracing not-knowing. :)